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HETEROSEXIST
CONTROL
Threatening to reveal lesbian or gay identity
to family, neighbours, employers, ex-spouses, government authorities.
"Outing" someone.
INTIMIDATION
Creating fear by using looks, actions, gesture
and destroying personal items, memontos, or photos. Breaking
windows or furniture. Throwing or smashing objects. Trashing
clothes, hurting or killing pets.
ENTITLEMENT
Treating partner as inferior; using differences
against partner (race, education, spiritual beliefs, wealth,
politics, class privilege or lack of, physical ability). Acting
as if the partner's needs are less important. Interfering
with partner's job, personal needs and family obligations.
USING
CHILDREN
Threatening to take children away or have them
removed. Using children to relay messages. Threatening to
harm children.
ECONOMIC
ABUSE
Controlling economic resources & how they are
used. Stealing money, credit cards or checks. Running up debt.
Fostering total economic dependency.
SEXUAL
ABUSE
Forcing sex. Forcing specific sex acts or sex
with others. Physical assaults to "sexual" body areas. Refusing
to practice safer sex.
HIV-RELATED
ABUSE
Threatening to reveal HIV status to others.
Blaming partner for having HIV. Withholding medical or social
services. Telling partner he is "dirty".
PSYCHOLOGICAL
& EMOTIONAL ABUSE
Criticizing constantly. Using verbal abuse,
insults and ridicule.
Undermining self-esteem. Trying to humiliate or degrade in
private or in public. Manipulating with lies and false promises.
THREATS
Making physical, emotional, economic or sexual
threats. Threatening to harm family or friends. Threatening
to make a report to authorities that would jeopardize custody,
economic situation, immigration or legal status. Threatening
suicide.
ISOLATION:
RESTRICTING FREEDOM
Controlling personal social contacts, access
to information & participation in groups or organizations.
Limiting the who, what, where & when of daily life. Locking
in room.
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